What happened? Why do you have to go back to your country?
Hagim: That is, I have to connect my passport. And the website said that the passport cannot be renewed at the embassy in Thailand. So I had to go to my hometown passport. But when calling to inquire He said he could continue. But it takes 3 months, which time it has 2 weeks, the passport will expire. Therefore had to fly back
Do you want him back then?
Nook: Honestly, I don’t want him back. Because we know it’s not just about when you will come back. Where will the travel expenses It also has a job. Because usually, Hakeem will help look at the child all year. And before Hagim flew, we had argued often, but not so violent. Arguing over the burden of the husband and wife Much more than father and mother But still have work matters Because we also have a boss and a subordinate mode And Nook was also sick, which was cancer at the time. Asked if it was all stressful during that time. Is fortunate that before Hagim flew Nook made plans for surgery And the healing is very fast Because he has to travel When we finished the surgery, it was during the time that he had to travel.
And when Hagim went Are you worried about your wife?
Hakim: I am sure that my wife is a very strong and strong woman. Cancer can’t do anything, 3 kids can’t do anything for you.
How long do you spend in Malay?
Hakim: About 3 months.
Nook: Went to Malay, so happy, right? (Laughs) He’s been going since we swallowed the mineral for the first time, probably May-June, and he just returned in February for almost 10 months.
I heard that it was chaotic at first, but after a while it felt good. Who doesn’t have a husband?
Nook: Since we have been a single mother for almost 10 years, have raised the year of Po Papa, have lived with 3 children and have always done things by ourselves. Until it becomes our habit To do something quickly and decide alone But when he has him, it is like an additional burden It has to adapt a lot. Without him, it was chaotic at first. But without him We went back to the way we used to be. So it felt comfortable.
Hagim: When I arrived in Malaysia. I miss my son and my wife, but the good thing is that I have met my mother and father
Nook: In the past, the address in Thailand. He cried because of missing his parents.
Any idea that life will end?
Nook: It was not thought of separation because we had Adam. And that we took him in, we have already planned that We want people to fill our family life. The best thing is to consult a psychiatrist. We were told to the psychiatrist directly. So when we were separated with my husband, we felt comfortable. And if we were born back together and we are not happy, what shall we do? So is it possible that a person has fallen in love once, but in a long time the feeling is passive? Is there a chance to fall in love again?
Which the doctor said Almost impossible Because humans are creatures of memory It is difficult for us to fall in love with the same person over and over again. But we were relieved when the doctor said that But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Which is this word that makes We feel that we will be a part of the minority. Because we feel that Family matters The way we live or live It’s not okay But we must be happy And the duties that go together
And it was nice to have Nook consulted a psychiatrist from the start. And it really helps with marriage. And then we can plan how we will have some action with him. And then, as a coincidence, when he got back, he probably was with himself what he should or shouldn’t do. So it really became to fall in love again.
How do you feel when you’re separated from your wife and family?
Hakeim: After 10 months apart, I can’t hold, I can’t hug, I can’t just miss. Thinking about the time the wife gave birth, it made me think that this woman was the best. Why can’t I change myself? Because in the past he was a hot-tempered person Now, I have a problem, and I will gradually solve it.
I have 3 children now, do you want to have more children?
Nook: Really, Nook wants to have it because we don’t have a party. Was when Nook had told him that Nook didn’t want to have children anymore But if there is, he must be a babysitter. Therefore, since Adam was born until growing up Nook was hardly busy with his kids. He will do it all. Nook is now sterilized. Temporarily sterile
Hagim: As for, I think that’s enough for now.
