In our life, wherever we are, we often meet both acquaintances and unknowns. Bully through actions or eyes often, right? Regardless of their appearance, gender, dress or lifestyle. This is partly because we humans tend to attach too much to their appearance. Until forgetting to look at other people’s mental values Including commenting as if we are a ruler that can be used to manage anyone
Bully can be categorized into 4 types:
- Use of force Or physical abuse such as hitting, punching, threatening, destroying things
- Speech It is said to hurt feelings such as threatening speech. Critics, ridicule, ridicule, etc.
- Social bully Resulting in psychological effects such as pressure to leave the group Prevent anyone from getting close Or not to be in a group of friends
- Online bullying (Cyber Bullying) It is broader, more severe bullying than in the school fence. Or in a group of friends
If it’s on the social media world We often see a lot of unappealing comments on Facebook. Instagram or YouTube of celebrities in various forms Which, whether celebrities or ordinary people, are often teased with the word Wearing a striped shirt does not look at his own fat at all. Wear bright colored clothes for the buffalo to see? Until the bad face, she is still firmly on her face.
But it’s not that it can only be found on the online world. In real life with people we raise their hands to pay homage to Hello every day. Or people who eat together every day, there are still many teaseings that stretch until they do not look at each other As for the office workers that we do not know, but are in a position that they do not like to see and do not like, there is a secret bite and gossip, it is really inevitable.
There is also a variety of behaviors that bully in society that makes employees less inclined to go to work, whether they blame the team with bad words, mocking and harshly blame them in front of others. Talking untrue stories to corrupt people Pressure on the work order team is poor, making it difficult to continue working. Bringing other people’s personal stories to shame
Another issue that is often encountered but people do not realize the problem is Sexual harassment Mistreated with words To the persecution Harming the body from being unable to control oneself Or workplace politics Play a favor, who beside me is saved. Considered a form of Bully in working life that is not friendly to the state of mind.
So today we have a way to heal the mind for people who encounter bully problems in daily life to leave it.
Matters of gossip both in front and behind it It’s something that we tend to come across in many societies, whether it’s, “Look at that guy. Why do you have to wear dark makeup and make your lips so red? What are you going to sell or sell? “” Pity the secretary in front of the manager’s room, so I have to take the boss’s dog to the garden every day. “
For each word like this, whoever listens to it must feel “Iyang”, right? Like to interfere with any personal matters Both not known But the people who talk, the drunk people may feel satisfied and deserve the people who themselves gossip If these people get some of these words back on their own It wouldn’t be fun either.
For the offended I want you to do it. Think positively that the class is beautiful, superior, and classy, even if someone wants to gossip. Then I will choose to smile at the gossipers, we know I heard. Or you can look at it and put it on. But if you don’t want to make poetry with people like this Just walk in idle Do not pay attention or collect it to think too much. Because the sound of birds crows like this Definitely did not finish within one day
Vent with a trusted friend
Sometimes, telling someone you trust not to take it forward can help release stress. The key is to think that we are a problem for people to gossip. We were the ones who were acting, not the source of the problems. But the one who gossips around other people without being careful is the problem.
In addition to close friends Parents, siblings, are also a great encouragement. It is another energy that can help heal our minds. Sometimes a trusted third person has interesting aspects or perspectives that we can take back to heal our bad mood.
Going out and changing new environments
If we’re still stuck with the idea of why they’re gossiping about us, why people are bully, we’re not fighting out new environments. Or look at something else that is better If you’re still stuck in trouble or gossip, you’ll never get out of a bad feeling.
Try planning a vacation, going out, meeting new people. Or walking out of the office to chill in the park Coffee shops or places with a relaxing atmosphere can help reduce stress with the sound of crows.
Very worried, consult a psychiatrist.
If the stress of being bullyed a lot Pile up in the heart until they can’t shake off Then try to consult a psychiatrist However, going to a psychiatrist today does not mean that you are schizophrenia or a crazy person who has to go to Srithanya, anything like that.
But going to a psychiatrist is finding a professional you can trust. Help find a suitable solution Including helping to discuss health issues that affect the body and mind in various aspects Therefore, going to the doctor is not a concern. At least we can get better advice, such as going to the gym. Practice new activities Or even provide health tonic, etc.
Bully doesn’t stop the story from ending at court.
If the person with whom he speaks bully you often Or so on a regular basis that it can be called a physical and psychological bullying You can collect evidence, either video, audio or some clips to use in the notification to remind you. If it were a saying in the internet, it would be If there is no money to pay the court fee, leave a strong comment.
Or if the person who bullies you on a daily basis He secretly filmed the clip. Or create rumors that are not true Are all actions that are illegal as well This one can carry criminal cases as well.
For those who are in the situation as the victim, they want to squeeze their hands, give them encouragement and be very strong because our lives cannot avoid the problem of gossiping at all, no matter what kind of place or society they are in. And no one else will be able to break our minds If we are strong enough As for the person in the state of the act, they want to restrain and think before speaking every time. Because what you do can create clues in other people’s minds. And if you’re in a reversed state, how much will you admit to being bullyed?
