He (around 40) chased me (24) and my sister(26) down on a skywalk while we were half walking half running in Chidlom area. Because we were in a rush !
Mind you, this guy is tall around 180cm+. We felt intimidated and scared for some reason. I’m 164cm and my sister is 159cm.
He stopped us and said to my sister “ Why are you walking so fast? Please don’t run next time… next time bc it was difficult for me to catch up. Are you from Singapore?”.
We’re not from Singapore. We thought he needed help or wanted something to do with Singapore so we stopped and waited to see what he wanted.
Her: “No”
Him: “Where are you from?”
Her: “Here”
Him: “I just saw you walking and had to follow you because your hair look so beautiful…”
I interrupted them saying “I’m so Sorry, but we’re in a rush and we gotta go.” then smiled. I had to admit I was already annoyed bc he didn’t cut to the point and my sister just froze knowing we really needed to GOOOO, otherwise we won’t be walking so fasttt!
He just scoffed “oh haha” and kept talking to my sister which I can already tell made her uncomfortable even though he was complimenting her.
He said something along the line“ You look beautiful. I like your hair and the way you dress.” My sister just smiled and stood there.
Then he asked her if she had a boyfriend or not in which she replied “yes” and smiled (and it’s true, they’ve been tgt for 7-8years now). He looked disappointed but he still grabbed his phone and ask if he can have her contact. She said “no” again and shakes her head smiling politely. She’s a sweetheart and she never wants to piss anyone off 😭.
But he kept pursuing that’s when I got really mad. I figured he wouldn’t let her go, blocking our way so I lied to him “Sorry, she’s married”. He still didn’t leave us alone. So I added “She’s currently pregnant. 4 weeks now.” And that’s when he freaked out and left.
Why can’t people just take “NO” for an answer?😩
Edit: We talked about it later and my sister said she was scared. It was already dark, not many ppl passing by.
And the way he ran all the way chasing us was too much? I kinda felt bad for lying too. I felt like I could’ve handled it better bc he was giving her compliments? But on the flip side, I thought if I was him, I’d already left when the one I’m approaching said “no”.
Edit 2:
For more context, he approached us alone. He dressed somewhat decent. Not in elephant pants and tank top like tourists. He was wearing a polo shirt, denim shorts, clean white trainers, and had earphones on. He wasn’t carrying any bags.
Edit 3:
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
For folks who asked or said “Why didn’t you just leave?” “I would’ve just left /walk away.”
My answer:
But I needed to get through him to go into the building so I can get my car and drive us to our next destination asap. We were late. And I was trying to get my sister moving but she just stood there. I guess she completely froze and freaked out because she rarely encounter situations likes these.
So I tried stating my peace politely and asked for an open walk way, since he was “blocking” our ways into the building from the skywalk and he showed that he was indeed clingy. I don’t want him to suddenly become aggressive. Who knows what could’ve happen? And I can’t leave my sister behind just like that. I was trying to get her out of the situation too.
We are tiny compared to him.
“It was your mistake for being nice/ engaging in the convo/ smiling to him.”
My answer: We are a people pleaser. Growing up, Me and my sister have hard time saying no and setting boundaries so I think what happened was a big step for us, especially for me sister. We don’t like causing scenes but I learned now that I shouldn’t have smiled now and shouldn’t have been so nice to these type of people!
“So blaming foreigners now? Thai men are worst.”
My answer: I’m confuse but because I encounter a foreigner that night. I’m not pointing that it’s just foreigners who are like this. All nationalities, all gender can be happened to be like him. I’m hustling telling what I’ve encountered.
“How did you know his age?”
My answer: No, I don’t know his age. I guessed it roughly. I should’ve added that. My assumption could’ve been wrong but from my perspective, he didn’t seem to be in his 20s anymore. Definitely a grown man and much more older than us.
“Why the abbreviations?”
My answer: I get lazy writing long stories so that’s why…I’ll go back and fix them.
“What’s TDY?”
My answer: Tdy= today.
I starting writing this post on the day it happened but forgot so I finished it 2 days later. Sorry for the confusion.
“If he was handsome you would’ve already been in his bed.” (It was commented by @/fourmi but already deleted)
I never once mentioned about his appearance so why is this brought up in the first place?
